This week has caused me to think on this subject on a larger scale. Look at these folks:
Here's poor SC Governor Mark Sanford. He's just lookin' for love...in all the wrong places. See how sorry he is--wipin' his tears away an' all?
Yesterday Politico website reported that, according to recent polls, half his constituency favor his stepping down as a result of his affair with the Argentine bombshell. Only about a third will say they think he should stay. Good for them! If they can't be honest with their families, why should we allow these folks the trust of public office?
Let me share some of my favorite Sanford quotes:
It is my personal view that the largest proclamation of one's faith ought to be in how one lives his life. (ABC, June 5, 2008)
And then,a year later, he proclaimed that he could
"...die, knowing I've met my soulmate." (A reference to his S. American tart, not his wife and mother of his children).
Yes, sir! Livin' that faith out in his life, isn't he?
And, then, there's prince-of-a-family-man, John Edwards; you know, the one with the folksy smile and the steadfast wife who is dying of breast cancer? He cheated on his wife and kids (because, never let it be forgotten, that the children and extended family are also victims of the adultery hurricane).
PLEASE GET THIS: he let his wife write a freakin' book about his "past" affair and go on a national book tour thinking "Whew! That was tough but we made it past!!" All the while he was still diddling where he should not be!! And now he has moved this woman under his long-suffering wife's nose.
The disrespect is amazing. Don't you think he could at least tell his wife of decades that she was about to present to the world that he was repentant when he was not? Of course he could not do that! This is because men in this frame of mind think only in the moment and only about themselves. Reminds me of when I found out that my H had brought his honey to my home. Tells you lots about them both, doesn't it? And it is just a clue as to how far gone men in this situation become...only one thing on their minds, and it does not include kindness to their families.
You know the suspect list: Bill Clinton ("I never had sex with that woman") who also let his wife go on national television to defend his sorry butt. There's good old Elliot Spitzer, who was governor of New York and spent--do you remember?--over $80,000 on prostitutes!!! (And that's just what can be found!).
I could go on and on, which is the nature of a rant, but you know the names of others (John McCain, Newt Gingrich... yadayadayada). These are attractive, talented men who have a gift for leadership and who have much to offer us in the way of public service. Too bad their actions should disqualify them for those positions--as I say, if their families don't trust them, why should we? We shouldn't. Period.
I think the real reason for my rant is the wives. I have spent time with women who have worked their fingers to the bone, building retirement funds that they are now going to have to share with their wayward husbands. I am STILL having to remind these women that their husbands of decades have now become their enemies, and that is not too strong a word. These guiltless women will, statistically, have a much, much harder financial life following their divorce than their husbands will have. And there is just only so much I can do about it. It is, as you can see, keeping me a bit awake at night.
And, as for you women who participate as "the other woman" in this, shame on you! There is no excuse for adultery, none whatsoever--not even your "special" circumstances...quit it, now. By the way, he's lying to you, too--oh, yes he is, absolutely. Okay, I'm stopping at that--whole 'nother rant.
Thanks for tolerating this, those of you who have made it this far. I'm going to sleep now and might just regret pushing that "publish" button, but oh well...