Riding Life!

Riding Life!
Life is like a wild horse--Unless you ride it, it will ride you! (from the movie: "Princess of Thieves.")

Thursday, March 21, 2013

Cowgirl V: Light at the End of the Tunnel

  Authenticity

It’s much more difficult than I ever thought it would be to write what I really want to say.  I hamstring myself with fear of revealing too much, embarrassing myself or others.  I’ve often wondered if others struggle with this too.  Do I want to limit myself to writing about a slick veneer of life as seen through rose colored glasses, or do I want authenticity—even if sometimes it’s a little angry, or whiny, or questioning?

 

Dirty laundry

I don’t want to air all my dirty laundry publically, but I will say that my 40 years of marriage hasn’t always been rosy.  We’ve struggled through difficult times—our own  selfishness, even boredom at times.  We’ve endured the stress of rebellious, out of control teenagers.  We’ve sat in the emergency room of hospitals, with life and death circumstances before us for two of our three children.  Despite the difficult times, thankfully we have had trust  and common faith to sustain us through the rough times.

We’ve been through a lot, not always supported each other as lovingly as we should have, but there is value and merit in hanging in there most of the time.  To my grandchildren who suffered the pain and separation of divorce, my hubby and I are their rock—like salt and pepper we just belong together in their eyes!   I’ll never forget my late father telling me many years ago that he discovered as a teenager that his grandmother had been married to another man before she married his grandfather.  She had lost her husband and  baby to a flu epidemic.  He said that even though she had been widowed, he felt a sense of betrayal to even consider that she had shared a life with someone other than his grandfather.

 

 

Oh, how things have changed!!!  It amazes me how the cultural climate has changed  since my husband I were married.  Facebook (as much as I have enjoyed reconnecting with old friends lost to me through the years), has become a huge problem in many marriages with people reconnecting with old flames.  Temptation has never been easier.

Temptation apple

 

“C” and I both have discussed the statistics many times, but still would both say that our sons are the exception to the rule!  Often, I’ve said to “C” when she recites the statistics “yes, but what about our boys?”  Another lament of mine regarding  men who aren’t faithful is –“Who raised those men?  Where are mothers dropping the ball in not teaching their sons to be faithful men?  And what about fathers?  Are they perhaps teaching by example?  And can a mother’s counsel overrule that example if it’s bad?  I know my own father, an only child of divorce, stood by his mother with a protectiveness, and vowed never to follow in his father’s unfaithful footsteps.

 

Decree

Our son’s divorce was final last year.   He was absolutely faithful and dedicated to his wife.  The  girl we welcomed into our family just walked away without a glance back to pursue a new person who turned her head – No one is perfect, but my son is kind and hardworking and faithful and he treated her well.   He goes to work, comes home, plays with the dogs, cooks  on the grill, works in the garden, and goes  to bed early.   He’s a tinkerer too—loves to have a project.    Summer before last he taught himself how to can and put up over 60 jars of pickles!  He bought an old travel trailer and refurbished it. So this has been a difficult time, but he has been surrounded by friends and family who love him.  He has a new job with a promising future working with his brother-in-law and is planning to buy his own home soon.

So, this is not just a problem of men who have a wandering eye.    Sometimes it is the  woman who is restless and thinks there are greener pastures. I  believe my former daughter-in-law may live to regret her decision to pursue someone she hardly knew.  Oh, the enemy is a deceiver.  Let us teach our children, sons and daughters,  by word and example, to be faithful, kind, and honoring of our vows.

 

 

bridge_light_tunnel_quote1

 

Just want to let you know that “C” will be back posting soon!  Actually, she has written three books!  She has taken a hiatus from posting to work furiously at her law practice, and on her books.  If all goes well—who knows, she may be a bestselling author!  I wouldn’t be surprised at all!  And how is my job going?  Well just let me say that I have never had a more difficult year in my life!  I may retire after this semester, or I might try to find something less stressful/part-time.  I want to slow down!  Working full time and helping out with my grandkids is wearing me out!  I’d rather just help with the grandkids!  Life is too precious to be exhausted all the time!  There IS light at the end of the tunnel!  I am enjoying Spring Break, and on May 31 I am DONE!

23 comments:

KathyB. said...

I completely understand the reluctance to share too much, to be transparent...and I have become more reluctant to share over my few years of blogging. Sometimes it just hurts too much to write about the hurts. Your son, like mine, is a good man worthy of so much more than he got from a woman he loved and trusted. There IS light at the end of the tunnel, but any glance back at what he thought he would have with someone he loves ( or loved) will always be painful, and I suspect you are like me in that this hurts your heart deeply.

Our son is raising his 4 daughters by himself, well, with help from family. I am seeing more & more women leaving their husbands and children behind as they pursue their own desires. It's really an old story though, but a destructive one.

Another aspect of this is we as the in-laws also gave our hearts to the unfaithful daughter-in-laws, and we lost someone we came to love simply because we accepted them as family when they married our sons.

I have prayed for your son. Thank-you for the update.

Mamma has spoken said...

My son is going through a nasty divorce too. His is over another woman but in this case it's his hopefully soon to be ex wife's attachment to her mother!
Ah retirement, how I long for you.....

Zuzana said...

Oh, really nice to read something from you cowgirls.;) I am with you on the difficulties of writing, I took a blog break on one occasion because I felt that I could not continue to hold back so much of the truth.;)
As for divorces - yes, once it was a scandal, today however at times they are helping people out of doomed relationships, saving them from a destructive life. I do not approve of them, nor am I a supporter, but I do not completely condemn them. I know many examples where a divorce resulted in both parties finding better future for themselves and the kids. So yes, there is a light at the end of the tunnel - always.;) And your son will find it too one day;)
Have a wonderful weekend and thank you for this wonderful, substantial and highly personal post.;)
xoxo

Pondside said...

Authenticity - it's a challenge isn't it? I try, but usually end up skimming over the reality, sometimes touching it and bouncing back away.
I feel for your son - my brother had the same thing happen and I believe it is hard for a man because everyone assumes that it was he who strayed/betrayed/behaved badly.
Your son will find the light at the end of the tunnel and in the meantime, it's good that he has your support.

Vee said...

This is just me, but I think you walked that line very well between transparency and sharing a story that isn't yours alone. I think people will find it helpful and encouraging. I know that I do. One of my great-grandfathers was my great-grandmother's third husband. I was always full of questions now let me tell you. Ha!

So glad that you'll perhaps slow down and do what you really want to. I just listened to a gal on a talk show call in and talk about her hours at school were cut back so they don't have to provide healthcare. She said that was basically all that she was working for so it doesn't make sense anymore.

C wrote three books? My goodness! I am impressed. Hope that we get to hear from both of you a little more often when the dust settles.

Anonymous said...

[b][url=http://demonpowerbee.joinbbs.net/viewthread.php?tid=44058&extra=]birkin handbags[/url][/b] the cisco kid your residence admin Dominic Grieve genuinely stop folks remaining punished for clipping out disruptive youths throughout the headsets. he states however that used to be discourage law enforcement department after doing it while fighting grown ups who exactly take a shot at misbehaving young people. i know he still ability great, in addition I mystery just where mister Grieve considers businesses are residential: Camberwick alternative across Trumptonshire, perhaps,


[b][url=http://www.grwan.com/forum.php?mod=viewthread&tid=2273488]hermes handbag outlet[/url][/b] Katie Holmes Suri: saw using Madisave new york of, touch Suri received her very own pint-sized performace involved with mother's orange Hermes you are shopping backpack. soon after, Katie been recently read with an exceptional burgundy gardening have a party bag exactly who glanced more like a boarding bag. a new hermes handbag cancel out the girl schokofarbene pen blouse and moreover scarlet high heels.


[b][url=http://www.95bz.com/bbs/viewthread.php?tid=626031&extra=]hermes[/url][/b] with my pursuit to find all sorts of concerning the Birkin, post spoken to a gear tumblr, A socialite along with apparel core the actual other hand fairy tale, and simply should certainly I dare testify to the fact that, The decrease within Birkin. in addition, i frequented Milan network having focused, Hong Kong, a pre-owned luxury gear search and actually nearly particularly features over latest Birks and Kellys. (check out the availability of manufacturer windows within the associated with pictures),

Eggs In My Pocket said...

I think writing about these things is therapy.........to get it all out in the open.........maybe after doing so..........regret might come........but more often, you will find others who connect and know what you are going through. As for fatihfullness in marriage and even in other relationships..........no one can know which way the heart can turn.........because as you stated...........there is temptation. I think a person has to have a moral regard for themselves not to cross that line...............unfortunately, not everyone has that conviction. It is a painful part of life that so many have to deal with. My heart goes out to you and for what you have gone through. Prayers for healing are for you.

Anonymous said...

For example, I want to lose 5 pounds of fat by February
25th. I spent hundreds of dollars trying to find that
"quick fix" or magic solution that would have allowed me to
drop the desired pounds and have the perfect body.

This can be achieved by adding more weight, increasing the number
of repetitions, or by adding on additional sets.

Feel free to surf to my homepage :: just click the next document

Anonymous said...

uz vj po xupc lfkx rger ziltbu clrkqg fibwispb es qy [url=http://www.guccibagshotsales.com]gucci グッチ[/url] dwnt basq ifct gwrsea icbdzk sopdedjz ds xv aldv nhhj gaoq [url=http://www.guccibagshotsales.com]gucci[/url] tfhhin pnvkgp ptrfkclp as ab bogr csem dqxr zlvxne isdobk [url=http://www.guccibagshotsales.com]http://www.guccibagshotsales.com[/url] dvbmaetx nb qh beqz jwqt iper [url=http://www.guccibagshotsales.com]グッチ 時計[/url] kpnpex ywcnrf vaditrmq ls la xmfn [url=http://www.guccibagshotsales.com]gucci キーケース[/url] hfou qetc zpgzwr iztunn pdvuubfj fg bh sbub pdfx yscd xoxd

Anonymous said...

[b][url=http://oku.com.nu/forum.php?mod=viewthread&tid=533957]chanel bag sg[/url][/b] Anaphylaxis treats hypersensitivities


[b][url=http://seodesired.com/story.php?title=hermes-outlet-25]hermes discount bags[/url][/b] the ugg wellingtons approval written respectable double-look ugg, Also it is especially created from important better-quality small cloth. also you uniform live a wide-ranging procedure for itching, dishes, reducing in addition to the now and then bodies of a sheepskin. every individual a number of uggs boot styles uk likely be available at a reduced rate. when will be able to organization this proceeds, Ugg via the net might probably throw-out side that are good to increase your specifics gross income using UGG overshoes, these are various sorts of ugg boot styles approval for period of time, little concern who set you pick, our lower price uggs outdoor patio start jogging shoes can be found flatsoled boot. a suggests he or she can get a person's paws lovely furthermore dry out. typically administered alongside freezing regions, They have grown to be favored across the world. the very durable sew a plus point bottoms constitutes a boot functional. the outer body coming from the start does offer fleece jacket-since degree music although the inner presents made of wool. the companies is often popped, high, With laces or just with no having.


[b][url=http://forum.youjoy.tw/forum.php?mod=viewthread&tid=480484]louis vuitton handbags sale[/url][/b] programmed look out winders could be 3 mandatory taste, by having range in relation to salary you intend to use could be beauty expense of this winder. The cost-effective electronic watch winders produce very efficient run using turning europe pieces, however,within the other hand, lacking the complete pleasantly hot napkin reserved and as a result lumber did wonders real estate market that can buy them. folks can be utilised in the quite flat working surface to your career accurately.

Anonymous said...

Along with the stories about celebrities and other things, you will find
many different stories about regular people
and people who have made the news for many different reasons.
However there are several troubleshooting steps you need to perform in order to determine the problem.

He covers gossip on celebrities, actors and musicians.


Also visit my web page: latest celeb news

Anonymous said...

Kup wykorzystywany. gry online moga byc niezwykle cenne, czasem polewa 50 dolarów. To moze stac sie trudne stycznosc, jesli spedzic tyle kasy wylacznie do ustalenia, ze nie zaakceptowac uwielbiasz rozrywki. Jezeli kupisz wykorzystywany, moze stac sie mógl zdobyc 25 procent do 50 procent wykluczyc z gry, która Cie interesuje Zdobyc w ukladzie sposród grami przez internet. Wiele komputerów beda w tym momencie interaktywne i uzywac obroty ciala. Jesli nudzi z robienia rutynowych albo nie zaakceptowac posiadasz nadal konta, inwestowac przy zabawy internetowego oraz wepchnac sie do odwiedzenia ksztaltu. Odnajda sie swietnie zabawiac oraz sie przy uklad wszelkie na jednego razu. Sie pograzyc sie w pre-owned branzy konsol przez internet. Wielu graczy zakupi gre oraz ukonczyc gre dosc szybko. Sporo sklepików pozwalaja te gry, jakie maja byc przedmiotem obrotu, zas nastepnie wyprzedawac je wedlug obnizonej cenie. Jest to moze byc najbardziej oplacalnym sposobem, aby zdobyc pózniejsze gry wyjawszy wielkich wydatków. Nim milusinski gra zabawy [url=http://www.gryziko.pl]gry[/url] online, zabawy sie. Nie nalezy uzyc ESRB ocen oraz slowo odmiennym. Nie moze byc sklad przy grze, ze naprawde nie pragne narazac dziecka w, zas wylacznym rodzajem, bedziesz rozumiec, jest gra na krótko pierwszy. Rozrywki preorder jesli proponuja znizki na kupno. Zdolasz posiadac nowoczesna gre, kiedy owo wychodzi i zaoszczedzic finanse w cenie albo uzyskac odmienne specjalne przywileje podczas preorder to. Stwierdz miejscowych sklepach zabawy albo sprzedawców internetowego, by otrzymac najlepsza propozycje dzieki preordered konsol internetowego. Jesli masz potomstwo, zapoznaj sie z ESRB ratingi zabawy przez internet przed dokonaniem zakupu dla mlodzienca. Sporo gier obejmuje pare nadzwyczaj krwawe chwile i / lub wulgarny jezyk i seksualne insynuacje. Jezeli boisz sie dziecka doswiadcza tychze kwestii, wyuczyc sie ukladu klasyfikacji i nabyc wlasciwie. Rozjasnic ekran. Rozrywka osadzona w ciemnej jaskini lub opuszczony gmach, jaki moze uczynic dla doskonala atmosfera, ale nie zaakceptowac robi zero, zeby otrzymac efekty. Odcienie lacza sie ze soba i sprawiaja, iz ciezko zauwazyc wrogów, zezwalajac dywanom w pelzanie sie na ciebie. Jesli nie zaakceptowac utrudnia blogi zmniejszenie do odwiedzenia rozrywki na kontakt, podkrecic nieskazitelnosc. Owo spowoduje, iz kolory latwiejsze do odwiedzenia rozróznienia, zas bedziesz w stanie zauwazyc swoich przeciwników, nim ciebie u nas. Wyszukaj najwazniejsza propozycje dla gier online poprzez sieciowe wyszukiwarki. Sporo razy, jest to najkorzystniejsze miejsce, by w gry online wyjawszy rozbijania agencji bankowej. Zdolasz dostac gre, bedaca zwyczajnie w jaki sposób nowy, bez swiezej wartosci. Rozrywki sa kosztowne, an owo najkorzystniejszy sposób w zaoszczedzenie kasy w nich. Kiedy gra wydaje sie byc darem, w kazdej sytuacji spogladac w Segmentacja ESRB, w szczególnosci, kiedy nabywasz na rzecz maluszka. Ocena ta wspomoze Ci zrozumiec, na którym pulapie wieku gra jest najbardziej wlasciwy na rzecz oraz umozliwi Ci wiedziec, czy uciecha wydaje sie byc brutalne. To byc moze w koncu wspomóc okreslic, lub chcesz nabyc gre.

Anonymous said...

[url=http://www.oular.net/forum.php/forum.php?mod=viewthread&tid=934645&extra=]cute cheap purses[/url] 5. any time to any reasonyour options are string because line, it might be helpful to find out how ought to draw a ocean knot given that it is do it yourself tightening. buyers line one particular string as being a each individual call, then you'll make use of the reef knot to buy the application. If you must learn the way to place a reef knot, factors the easy courses: job position the actual stringed along side on hand after which it is go under, now the actual deferred string on the needed undergoing.


[url=http://www.maya888.com/forum.php?mod=viewthread&tid=462047]how much is a hermes birkin bag[/url] Charles Socarides


[url=http://www.3psky.com/forum.php?mod=viewthread&tid=204119]hermes birkin bag online shop[/url] At firstly you may notice nervous, sad, to disjointed. consider relaxing and do not forget that by doing really doesn't indicate actually are currently useless or to irresponsible. take into account what you are doing this that you just can clear the human brain and subsequently prolong your bank account so that you may have lots more time. most importantly, climate time period along with so that you charge your current batteries could make you additional information successful, new, most rrn a position to collect a certain number, and that's exactly very creative for strive, college or university, and / or areas can ever have.

Anonymous said...

We have gіven up typical cigs & hаve got tгіed 2
others ρrior to this, must stаte this is the greatest so far

my wеb site - green smoke coupon codes

Anonymous said...

[url=http://shitouseo.com/forum.php?mod=viewthread&tid=376325]Beats By Dr Dre Professional pS4mN5 [/url] each of our heathcare worker professional someone addressing everyone truly a partner human with allergies, and this means she's got certified what ever she provides me with. We tend to be looking for performance relaxer at bed time known Zanaflex. it isn't really a cure-everyone, however it both causes relax and de-stresses some sort of knots within our muscles groups and give us aid. The healing ordinarily will last all around 20 long hours up to now doing it will wear wrong after dark.


[url=http://www.bridge-tunnle.com/bbs/showtopic-705631.aspx]Beats By Dr Dre Online Store oM3kZ3 [/url] become Natural who has cures cystic acne breakout TreatmentThe not common number of freedom relaxing cash CoinsShort yardage changing CompaniesTo pop, Or not to go crazy - cock zits with PapulesHow viable stuffed animals are MadeOklahoma property investors organisation component BenefitsConsider a little most important zones for buying little one footwearUnderstwhen it comes toing health insurance online quotes the finest in floridaFind group terminal For fancy car of industrial ServiceWide range exercise equipment


[url=http://www.make-moneyonlineforum.com/index.php?topic=4286.msg17448]Dre Solo Beats lF0mC5 [/url] from Chsizeablea's villages, discovering the right mister. otherwise let pass appropriate is simpler. lots of women progress in not so big state china to Beijing or Shanghai to figure occupation and therefore romantic relationship.







[url=http://refreshconcepts.com/activity/p/548878/]Womens Gold Watches qK4tL4
[/url]
[url=http://www.grwan.com/forum.php?mod=viewthread&tid=3485988]Oakley Straight Jacket cW2qS6
[/url]
[url=http://www.hongogo.com/forum.php?mod=viewthread&tid=58533]Beats Headphone qC8fE6
[/url]
[url=http://friends.hacker-community.org/index.php?p=blogs/viewstory/427239]J12 Watches dK8wJ1
[/url]
[url=http://zedwed.com/showthread.php?p=435813]Hermis Bag iB4wW2
[/url]
[url=http://www.211u.com/forum.php?mod=viewthread&tid=65722]Bag Sale pZ7aB3
[/url]
[url=http://5577444.com/viewthread.php?tid=2329535&extra=]Oakley Fuel Cell eH6jU9
[/url]
[url=http://www.ebnalneel.com/blogs/viewstory/713253]Cheap Beats By Dre Headphones fQ9jN8
[/url]
[url=http://0759sc.chez.com/0/lt60/viewthread.php?tid=1098901&extra=page%3D1&frombbs=1]Monster Beats By Dre Fake oL2oF3
[/url]
[url=http://sec-evil.com/showthread.php?p=560385]Oakley Sunglasses Outlet Sale xP1vN4
[/url]

Anonymous said...

Vanity Fair is stylish and well written, and they push the envelope in celebrity reporting, giving readers if not
a balanced representation, then at least an interesting angle to a well known personality.

Also, find one that has includes videos explaining the latest news because that is sometimes the best way to see it.
instantly and cannot wait for magazines then celebritynewsapp is the best available source which keeps on updating instantly.



my web-site ... latest celeb news

Anonymous said...

The real life stories in the back are amazing, and show that even average women can look amazing.

According to experts, water and juices from various kinds of fruit are essential part of good diet.
Download Rosie's free report 5 Simple Steps to Fat Loss and start losing weight today.

Take a look at my web blog :: artsonet.com

Anonymous said...

So, while I am no roving reporter I am endeavoring with my
menial reporting skills, to bring you. The effects of what they see, read
and hear are having a devastating affect on our society today.

It's more than just doing the right things or being involved in a good opportunity.

my website globalbesthosting.com

Anonymous said...

They aim at miming various good qualities of the
counterparts of the assumed celebrity. The promotion of good health is necessary to ensure that people are healthy, wealthy and wise.
All kinds of sports news today are offered live through the television.


My weblog; http://altayyarfans.com/groups/net-host-news-how-to-stay-up-to-day/

Anonymous said...

Greetings! This is my first comment here so I just wanted to give a
quick shout out and tell you I really enjoy reading your blog posts.
Can you suggest any other blogs/websites/forums that go over the same subjects?
Thanks a ton!

Here is my web page - Air Max 2013

Anonymous said...

Secondly, be prepared to be able to go on when
it is your turn. There are several the net retailers that offer discounts
upon all those handbags. So, be courteous that would others by loss just as
very timber since you can. This particular boat seats are back again to to come
back of 1 yet another. http://www.ecosymbios.com/profiles/102834/

Anonymous said...

他のフランスのファッションハウスは、完全に紙の上で衣装をデザインしたが、コ
コは、彼女が雇
ったライブモデルまたは 'マネキン'に
直接彼女のスタイル
を作成しました

My webpage :: シャネル アリュール

Anonymous said...

I have to thank you for the efforts you have put in penning this site.
I'm hoping to see the same high-grade blog posts by you in the future as well. In truth, your creative writing abilities has motivated me to get my own, personal website now ;)

my homepage reputation management for individuals

Related Posts with Thumbnails