Have you seen this ad?
It only confirms what I have learned in my fifth decade of life: Most everything revolves around sex.
You think I’m wrong? Nope, I’m not. I’ve practiced family law 32 years (shudder) and I know this to be true. Now. A bit late in the day. I would have denied this ten years ago.
We women have got to get it through our heads: Men just are not as relational as women are. They have a pull to sex from a perspective that we don’t have. This is not to say that we don’t like sex, too; only it is different for them and not nearly as relationship-based as we women assume. And it pulls in a way that can lead (often) one away from family and fealty.Notice in the video—it’s the men scrapping for it.
The last issue of Discover magazine has a whole article on this. Just look at these quotes from it (p 48, 7/2011 issue):
Men don’t require any information about a woman other than what they can see with their own eyes.
Solitary, quick to arouse goal-targeted, driven to hunt..and a little foolish. The male brain is designed to be more visually responsive to sexual stimuli than the female brain is…
The male’s desire software is like Elmer Fudd…always on the hunt for …wabbits…easily fooled by ducks dressed as rabbits…but never gets discouraged. He reloads and gets back out there. tomorrow is another day…to bag a wabbit.
What you may have long suspected is true. Male brains are designed to objectify females..Sorry, that’s the facts, Ma’am.
Why is it important for us to know this? For me to continue to beat this drum? Because we women need to plan our lives with this in mind—not with the idea of a fairy-tale life which we’ve been sold over the years.
Look at this picture of Snow White and her “happily-ever-after” (bet not…)prince . He wasn’t in this for the relationship—she was comatose when he fell for her, for cryin’ out loud. All he needed to "fall in love" was what he saw with his own eyes. Poor Snowy, however, thinks it's something different....
We need to understand that over 50 per cent of marriages in America will end in divorce, and most of those will be because of the difference men feel about sex—need for variety, for instance. It leads them to abandon relationships we women would never abandon.
We need to be teaching our daughters to love their husbands with their whole hearts, but to be able to fend for themselves. There is a great chance that they will have to.
Yeah, I know, I know: your guy is different. Mine was too for 40 years. Ask V. If ever there was a paragon of Christian, salt-of-the-earth, husbandly virtue, mine was, Until a 29-year-old came calling and that tendency to objectify kicked in and Elmer Fudd popped out…it is an amazing dynamic, and we all need to acknowledge it.
Sorry for the preaching…I know I sound like a jaded scorned woman. Okay, I am a jaded, scorned woman but from my profession I just know it’s an important topic for women. I help them manage this issue on a daily basis.
I feel like Cassandra on this topic…like I wrote about a few weeks ago here. I am right, right, right on this topic, but those who need to hear cannot.Thanks for listening if you haven’t tuned me out by this time. C.
PS – By the way, I remember when showing bras on TV was a bit edgy…now we’re talking douche, viagra, and on and on…boy our kids are getting an early education, aren’t they?
PSS – Yes, I know there are unfaithful women, too. We’ve had a close brush with this recently. And, yes, I know that there are men who resist temptations. I’m talking statistics, here.