I ran across this Dove Evolution video, which has been around a couple of years now. It contains a great message that chasing the image of beauty which advertising and popular culture burns into our brain is, indeed, a chasing after the wind.
Believe me, having your husband leave you for someone 30 years younger will make you consider cosmetic surgery, but I discarded that idea fairly immediately. Why? The only possible reason I could think of in my particular status to do it was to try to snag a man, and I wasn’t even fishing. Besides, there’d have to be too much surgery—once started with that number-one priority (the double chin…), I’m afraid I’d try to work my way down, as it were.
So, I’ll stay as I am, for the moment.
I hasten to add that I am talking about ME, here, at this time. I have friends who have had cosmetic surgery with great results and for good reasons--no judgment, here--and I'm not counting it out for me in the long run. But I don't need to do it to try to meet some standard that is false, and I think the larger issue here is not surgery, any way, but realties and the need to find ourselves good, solid ground on which to base our self-esteem.
When you watch this video, you’ll see that even supermodels, blessed with “good bones” and high metabolism need the help of cosmetic artists and photoshop to attain the status of “model” of beauty for us all:
Yes, I love the message of this video: that there needs to be more to our self-esteem than outward appearance (notwithstanding the prevailing message) and that the bar has been set unrealistically high, anyway. In other words, it’s a lie…
But, then, I need to remember that it can work the other way, too. Can’t use that top video for my self-esteem talk without taking into account this one, as well:
No, I’m no model (never have been), nor is my goal “beauty:” I always say I aspire only to “socially-acceptable.” I’ll leave plastic surgery for a while, but I got the message of that last video, too—I’m off to exercise!