Life is like a wild horse--Unless you ride it, it will ride you! (from the movie: "Princess of Thieves.")
Thursday, November 5, 2009
C: Holidays Approach!
After Halloween, I always feel like I am in some kind of "home stretch," with the race culminating at Christmas. For some reason, New Year's Eve/Day are a bit anti-climactic. We hustle and bustle for Thanksgiving, picking up speed for Christmas, and then New Year's is a sort of time of rest after the holiday frenzy.
This year is going to be different for me, and I am so looking forward to it. I don't mean to imply that I did not like my Holidays Past. To the contrary, I loved them. We have strong holiday traditions which I may write about in another post. But the last "normal" holiday season we had was in 2007, before my husband took a powder. The past two have been tinged heavily with the flavor of a family in distress. I'm thinking this year will be the first "good" season in several years for my son and me; I can just feel it.
My home was the gathering spot for a lot of my family at Thanksgiving, and I kept my two ovens humming with too much food for this feast day. The last two Thanksgivings have been spent at my brother's home, and those who normally would have been at my house were there, too. His family has their own tradition of gathering with my sister-in-law's family, including out-of-towners and combining Thanksgiving with Christmas. They have a riotous white elephant gift exchange, and the refugees from my Thanksgiving tradition were welcomed there with open arms. This year, we're coming back to my house, and I'm looking forward to it. I remember two years ago when it was apparent that my husband would not be around. The family pretty much announced that the feast would move to my brother's house. I was devastated. It was the first Thanksgiving that I did not do most of the cooking. I can now relate to older folks who must give up these kinds of duties and how hard it is for them...guess I can look forward to going through that again!! Must keep the torch passing...
But the family was right. I was probably in no condition to host. I mean, who wants a Zombie presiding at table?
This year, after two years of Zombie-ism, I have shaken the Zombie off. I am feeling more emotionally-revived and am anticipating cooking and watching the kids run outside with the dogs and to gathering around my dining table. I'll have both my mother and mother-in-law with me, each contributing to the meal because they, too, love to cook and be a part of that.
And, for the first time in a couple years, I can truly say I am thankful. I can't say I'm living up to the admonition to give thanks in all things, but I'm at least thankful for some of life. Life is looking okay right now; at least good enough that I feel I can tackle challenges instead of them tackling me! I feel like I'm in that stretching phase of waking up after a long sleep. Maybe the holidays are what will bring me completely back.
I can see that this post is rambling much longer than I had intended. I really need to go to work folks, and I've probably passed your attention span, so I'll save the Christmas thoughts for the next... C
Mid-sized city, Somewhere in the South!, United States
We are "C" and "V," two baby-boomers who have been through thick and thin--50+ years of best-friend togetherness.
C is a divorce attorney, separated from her husband of 40(!) years--at age 59 he ran off with a thirty-year-old-never-married-mother-of-two and has now fathered another--and we're not even divorced! A very hard time for C.
C has one grown son--no daughter-in-law or grandchildren yet! (Drat!)
V works in a community based instruction program in a public school, helping special-needs students learn life skills. Mother of three, grandmother of five!
For 50+ years we've laughed together, cried together, and we've learned a lot! We love, love, love writing and want to share with you! Please come share, too!
Check out our posts under the label "Stickhorses" for more, but suffice it to say that these cowgirls started their lives together riding stick horses. Stick horses have come to symbolize the power of dreams and imagination for C and V--besides, we love cowgirl spirit!
You and the mother of the man who done you wrong are going to raise chickens together? I love it. I hope you become international stars in the chicken-raising world, and when you (and his mother and your chickens) are famous, I hope he comes crawling back, pleading with you to take back his poor miserable, not-famous self. You go, girl!
Thank you, thank you, thank you! On to International Chicken Stardom!! C
YET ANOTHER STUPENDOUS COMMENT!
SimplyJoolz (see our blogroll for link) said these kind words about the travails of C:
I love this story -its like a well written novel. I can't wait until the part where C kicks the useless husband between his hanky and his small change pocket! Lol!
It's coming, Joolz! C
PS - thank you all for your comments. They so give me a lift--often just when I need it!
C's SINGLE AGAIN POWER
Below is a list of things I'm learning to do--wish I'd started years earlier! It feels so good to list my "Power Accomplishments" for you, and I'd love to hear about yours!
Replacing the back fireplace refractory panel. Who knew?
Jacking up the front porch with my new, red, hydraulic jack!!
Learning to shoot and getting my Conceal-and-Carry license! (Power rush!!)
Purchasing tires...all by myself!
Buying and installing (!) the lawn tractor battery! Again, not rocket science...
Putting a new end on a ruined looooong extension cord. One prong was missing, and we replaced the plug-in. (Who knew you could do this??) I feel so, well, powerful!
Cleaning Tractor Air Filter
Dealing with fire ants--boy, are those suckers tuff!
Gettin' that utility pole installed.
Ordering gravel (SB 2!)
Replacing hydraulic hoses
Learning about the lawn mower (engine stabilizer!).