tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1834389037350420100.post7320620437679627423..comments2024-01-24T06:42:15.542-06:00Comments on Stick Horse Cowgirls: C: The Father Who Broke the MoldStickhorsecowgirlshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04167094045033324094noreply@blogger.comBlogger24125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1834389037350420100.post-31424881659242861532009-08-01T09:48:38.495-05:002009-08-01T09:48:38.495-05:00C, that was such an intersting post! I hate that a...C, that was such an intersting post! I hate that as a child you had to be an adult at times. So hard for a child. BUt I am also glad you can find the joy, and the many laughter in those experiences in his late life. The memorial gave me a good chuckle. I would love to read more, a most interesting life and great documentation of it all. <br />His behaviors only makes me think it was learned, perhaps one of his parents acted in the same way? Do you know? Or perhaps he was hurt somehow as a child and this was his way of covering pain. Or suppose I am overanalyzing things...which is in my blood. LOL. But in any case, I do hope to read more.<br />On a much different note... thank you, my friend, for comment you left on my "positive" post. It made my day! Thanks for dropping by Bloggeritaville!Leigh of Tales from Bloggeritavillehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01501269563354107349noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1834389037350420100.post-52788077911721385802009-07-30T19:11:17.644-05:002009-07-30T19:11:17.644-05:00Your story is so similar to mine it is almost unbe...Your story is so similar to mine it is almost unbelievable, the similarity that is.<br />QMMAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1834389037350420100.post-60750226813564587422009-07-29T22:09:41.611-05:002009-07-29T22:09:41.611-05:00I am so, so blessed that you found yor way to my b...I am so, so blessed that you found yor way to my blog and left a comment. Now I am able to visit you here and be inspired, entertained and delighted by you and your writing!<br />This was truly a beautiful post...Susie Qhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14878113034866113803noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1834389037350420100.post-50296736137788267532009-07-29T15:39:30.587-05:002009-07-29T15:39:30.587-05:00C, Thank you for the comment/compliment you left o...C, Thank you for the comment/compliment you left over at my place. Nice to hear. While here, I read a couple of posts ....and got a lump in my throat reading your post about your dad.... just ... wow... we all have our memories about growing up. I so worry, hope, and pray that my husband's and my daughters memories will be good ones. I enjoyed your candidness.Bzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00562720493485097677noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1834389037350420100.post-50311270721743930852009-07-28T22:18:37.858-05:002009-07-28T22:18:37.858-05:00Thank you for visiting my blog. Hope you come by ...Thank you for visiting my blog. Hope you come by your chicken desire someday.Lannyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16018584509455303394noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1834389037350420100.post-20671943379602399772009-07-28T16:29:25.600-05:002009-07-28T16:29:25.600-05:00I'm with you...it's not easy having a brok...I'm with you...it's not easy having a broken parent and it's heartbreakingly sad to know that one so smart and loving could have been damaged in such a way as to make it hard for them to relate to their own children. <br /><br />Very good story - thanks for sharing it.<br /><br />KariKari (GrannySkywalker)https://www.blogger.com/profile/17727660918541258744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1834389037350420100.post-35427638045423990902009-07-28T15:45:40.254-05:002009-07-28T15:45:40.254-05:00Oh dear heavens! That was the funniest piece of wr...Oh dear heavens! That was the funniest piece of writing I've read in a long time. I had to share it with my grandmother who laughed right along with it, too. <br /><br />I'm glad that you have made peace with your father's brokenness. It's not easy to have a broken parent, I know.Veehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00618654361869856894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1834389037350420100.post-48455816216565867052009-07-28T09:30:50.645-05:002009-07-28T09:30:50.645-05:00Found you through your comment on my sister's ...Found you through your comment on my sister's (Just-a-mere)blog. Very powerful post. I've put you in my reader and will be back for more.Iron Needleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04848627330939129750noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1834389037350420100.post-30393153351188834632009-07-28T06:05:03.200-05:002009-07-28T06:05:03.200-05:00My father was an alcoholic as well, but the odd th...My father was an alcoholic as well, but the odd thing was that we never knew it until he was 70 years old and had been hospitalized for a broken hip. He began to suffer DT's. I guess our mother knew it, but he was a quiet drunk, a nice drunk.<br />He never touched another drink again after that and I know it was hard for him.<br />How difficult your childhood must have been at times. I was glad, though, to read of your father's good qualities as well.Country Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14432335393660130255noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1834389037350420100.post-53411582716651558922009-07-28T02:40:04.826-05:002009-07-28T02:40:04.826-05:00I like how you tell your stories. Your Dad was an ...I like how you tell your stories. Your Dad was an interesting character. Unfortunately, I can relate to the Christmas part. But, Two toilets? That is funny!Lesliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15976416338706426809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1834389037350420100.post-45902917165100076292009-07-28T00:20:45.167-05:002009-07-28T00:20:45.167-05:00Your account of the holiday reminds me of my grand...Your account of the holiday reminds me of my grandparents, who were also careless gifters. After my father died, we didn't see much of his side of the family and they didn't seem much interested in us. (we were 2 and 4 at the time he died) Anyway, starting when we were about 8 and 10 we both got manicure sets. For four years in a row...janhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14550494417488866070noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1834389037350420100.post-46645775630414994712009-07-27T23:51:45.408-05:002009-07-27T23:51:45.408-05:00My husbands father was much like yours. It was on...My husbands father was much like yours. It was only in the last few years of his life that my husband had much of a relationship with him. He had re-married and his new lady kept him from self destructing. I am glad he was able to make peace with his dad before he passed away suddenly.<br /><br />JoolzJoolzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07490462580345458546noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1834389037350420100.post-24881913890580279452009-07-27T22:42:04.646-05:002009-07-27T22:42:04.646-05:00That is truly an amazing story. My father is gone ...That is truly an amazing story. My father is gone as well, and we had a rough childhood too but because he had major health problems.<br /><br />It takes years to heal sometimes, but I think it is healthy for you to write about it and come to terms with it. The side by side toilets are amazing!<br /><br />I wonder, had this happened in this day and age, if some good counseling and anxiety/depression help/meds could have helped him?<br /><br />Thanks for the story!Little Lovableshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02372045299073262480noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1834389037350420100.post-3542367989276904762009-07-27T20:13:26.676-05:002009-07-27T20:13:26.676-05:00c I love reading your blog......sad and yet hs so ...c I love reading your blog......sad and yet hs so much humor!! Glad you and your brother and sister turned out so well:) You need to wrtie a book, you can hold my interest and that is hard:)Linda Lou Rogers Averitthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06922242195015364432noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1834389037350420100.post-89207675791782903862009-07-27T15:41:40.842-05:002009-07-27T15:41:40.842-05:00Dee from Tennessee
I know where you're coming...Dee from Tennessee<br /><br />I know where you're coming from...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1834389037350420100.post-59609914030608399362009-07-27T13:28:24.981-05:002009-07-27T13:28:24.981-05:00I'm sorry he's gone, because although he h...I'm sorry he's gone, because although he had a sickness, it seems he did love you. My mother's mom on the other hand had the same sickness, but did not love her. It's a long horrible tale, but full of funny stories when she looks back, because all she can do is laugh at the antics of an alcoholic. Try watching a woman passing out in her food every night at dinner? LOL Anyway, thank you for sharing your story C.<br /><br />xo,<br />rueRuehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18127064683340688898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1834389037350420100.post-91969879881845854312009-07-27T12:58:32.983-05:002009-07-27T12:58:32.983-05:00I forgot to add, it sounds like your father might ...I forgot to add, it sounds like your father might have had some mental disorder that alcohol allowed him to cover or forget....my Mom and Mother-in-law both suffered from mental illness, but MIL , who is bi-polar, has never resorted to alcohol...she has been extreme, but not drunk and extreme!<br /><br />So is Duke named on the cemetery plaque too?KathyB.https://www.blogger.com/profile/13076933273610590290noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1834389037350420100.post-29522042880189918462009-07-27T12:54:57.229-05:002009-07-27T12:54:57.229-05:00Thank-you for writing and posting this . It gives ...Thank-you for writing and posting this . It gives me a lot of comfort to read other life stories that should you write a book or produce a movie about , people would not believe you! I have often opted not to write some of my experiences with my Mom because where do I start, what do i end up with, and it doesn't sound believable! You did a great job!<br /><br />Like you, I am ambiguous about my parent , because there were good times, and I don't believe they intended to be bad, and God allowed us these very parents, who helped fashion us into the people we are today. How WE choose to behave is up to us...but our parents remain with us, if only in thought and our genetic code, for the rest of our lives.( and our descendants too)<br /><br />P.S. Not to make this too long, but both my Mom and her father had alcohol problems and after a lot of thinking and observation about both of them, I don't think alcohol was their problem,( it became one) but it helped them cope with whatever was....and exaggerated already bizarre behavior. Maybe I will think on the best way to say this later. This is way too long.KathyB.https://www.blogger.com/profile/13076933273610590290noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1834389037350420100.post-88693991362616506572009-07-27T11:28:14.834-05:002009-07-27T11:28:14.834-05:00btw, I DID have to laugh out loud when I read abou...btw, I DID have to laugh out loud when I read about your step-mother mixing your dad's ashes with the dogs! Obviously, she was/is an interesting person too!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1834389037350420100.post-34044053209092861662009-07-27T11:22:55.541-05:002009-07-27T11:22:55.541-05:00C -- This breaks my heart, but I'm impressed w...C -- This breaks my heart, but I'm impressed with how you have apparently handled it. <br /><br />I had an older sister who had many similarities to your dad, except, as far as I know, her drinking wasn't as extreme, but she was diagnosed as bi-polar. Was he? My big sis was the most wonderful person in the world to be around when she was "up" -- fun, creative, interesting, generous -- but, when she was "down", you d.i.d n.o.t want to be around her.<br /><br />It's wonderful that you can treasure your dad's best traits, while being realistic about the bad ones.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1834389037350420100.post-66341120543380993362009-07-27T08:30:32.971-05:002009-07-27T08:30:32.971-05:00Dear C and V... thanks jumping over from Kate, A C...Dear C and V... thanks jumping over from Kate, A Country Girl, to visit my blog. I do appreciate your visit and that you left a comment so I could find you here.<br /><br />Your blog is amazing, and I've very much enjoyed reading your beautifully written posts. Both of you are excellent writers. Even the more somber/sad events are wonderfully told. I look forward to many more visits.Pat - Arkansashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11623638376731374600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1834389037350420100.post-71052763520426339792009-07-27T08:27:50.489-05:002009-07-27T08:27:50.489-05:00C, It seems are father's came from similar mol...C, It seems are father's came from similar molds. The difference would be that when my father would have had the brainstorm to go get a cooler he would not have had the courage to come back that night. He would have been gone for a week. It happened many times. While my stepmother put up with the abuse for 25 more years she at least had the insight to know he was not coming back and would leave for vacation without him. She did that on one particular 2 week vacation and he did not show up for the vacation until the last two days of our trip. Like yourself I do recognize my father had many good qualities and had no control over his defects. I have gathered from your blog that you have overcome many things and remain positive. I do enjoy keeping up with your journey thru life and how you keep an open mind.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1834389037350420100.post-86759259796400972182009-07-27T08:05:09.550-05:002009-07-27T08:05:09.550-05:00C, I am so glad I've found your blog. You insp...C, I am so glad I've found your blog. You inspire me because you are an overcomer: authentic, original, and wise. You are able to give your father respect and love and forgiveness; able to see his gifts as well as his flaws; able to see that his weakness can make you strong.<br /><br />beautiful.Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18124894626273484839noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1834389037350420100.post-8994580220723567682009-07-27T07:44:15.114-05:002009-07-27T07:44:15.114-05:00C, I'm so sorry for your loss of not only your...C, I'm so sorry for your loss of not only your father's person, but for the losses you suffered as a child. It's amazing how families can look so perfect on the outside and yet there is turmoil beneath the surface. I'm glad you do have some good memories of him tho. I hope you can try to remember those good qualities and times with your family and your dad, and release those bad ones. I'm sending up a prayer for you...Vickiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07741431727993692456noreply@blogger.com